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Dr. Heidi's avatar

What a beautiful homage to a special man who made a profound impact. There are so many ways people touch our lives, and often the most powerful ones go unrecognized, except in the warmth of how they made us feel and memories we have of how they anchored us to what really matters. The way he showed up for you many times (and you, him), how you write he went out of his way to pick you up from your surgery and wrap you in the blanket brought me to tears.

I’ve had the privilege of knowing a few men cut from the same cloth as your Rob. How special to have a connection through all those life phases and be a witness and presence for each other. My sense is you were anam cara, transcending ordinary friendship. I am sorry for your loss. Life is fragile and fleeting, and yet we are so fortunate to spend some moments with those rare souls who are as solid as your Rob.

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From one ‘South Londoner’ to another: Rob was a man that I immediately connected with and felt great affection and fondness.

A shared heritage of growing up in ‘Sarf London’ brought with it an understanding of where we had come from.

But what was abundantly clear to all, and particularly with your tribute, not everyone knew where he was going and constantly surprised you with the twists and turns of his life travels.

I’ve just spent the morning walking another dear friend’s hounds on the hill at Rottingdean; listening to the Larks ascending and lifting their voices to the sky and thinking of Rob.

He was a man who charted his own course: safe journey Rob.

Love Nick.

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